“Children’s children are the crown of old men.” (Proverbs 17:6)
A crown is worn in order to show stature and nobility. Having grandchildren who go in the ways of Hashem is the greatest feeling of accomplishment.
“A wise son is a joy to his father.” (Proverbs 10:1)
It is not really honor or accomplishments that give pride to ones father. Rather, it is knowing that he has given his child the want of seeking wisdom. A parent’s main joy is watching the intelligence of their child grow.
“Your children are like olive plants around your table.” (Psalms 128:3)
Olives can either be made into extra, refined oil or of lesser purity. It all depends on how they have been processed. The same goes for children, it all depends on how they have been educated.
Condition the youth according to his way, then even when he grows old it will not desert him. (Proverbs 22:6)
If children are used to being around holy parents who are devoted to Hashem, then that will be what is normal in their eyes. This normalness will be their basis.
“You shall be holy to Me, for I, Hashem, am Holy, and I have set you apart from all other peoples, that you should be Mine.” (Vayikra 20:26)
Just like Hashem set apart His children, raising them above all other nations, so too, we must make our children feel like they are most important to us.
“Be fruitful and multiply; fill up the earth and sovereign over it.” (Genisis 1:28)
Children extend our value and worth as an entity of the world. We see that the more children one has, the more powerful their family becomes. One person only has so many connections and can affect only so many but many together are far stronger. Raising children takes ones strength but it also opens up many doors otherwise closed.
“The rod of correction creates wisdom; but a child left to himself brings disgrace to his mother.” (Proverbs 10:1)
Without the fear of correction, a person can’t even begin to serve Hashem. They might try but they do not have enough wisdom to overcome their negative character traits.
“He, who spares the rod, hates his son.” (Proverbs 13:24)
Many times when we should really be embracing our children, do we punish them and when we should rebuke them, we embrace them. A parent should try and find an appropriate balance of discipline depending on the needs of the individual child. It is certainly wrong to take the approach of being fully merciful.
“As arrows in the hand of a mighty man, so are the children of one’s youth.” (Psalms 127:4)
Children help their parents to see themselves in a realistic light. By raising a family earlier in time, a person is able to strengthen their own character far more then the older adult already set in their ways. We learn so much from our children.
“Have I not calmed and quieted my soul, like a weaned child my soul is with me. (Psalms 131:2)
Even in times when we take the holiness of our souls for granted, Hashem is still watching over us like a mother does her nursing infant. As we mature and calm the negative spirits within us, our soul is then shown its own strength similar to when a child is being weaned from it’s mother.
Usually siblings follow after the behavior example of the first born children. This is why it is very important to bringing up ones firstborn in such a way that they will be balanced in behavior.
“May He bless the lads, and let them carry my name along with the names of my fathers.” (Genesis 48:16)
It is a big responsibility to carry on the name of ones family. One needs much strength and bracha to live up to the merit of previous generations; there identity is truly a part of us even today.
“Train a lad in the way he ought to go; he will not swerve from it even in old age”. (Proverbs 22:6)
Many parents try to fulfill their dreams through their children instead of training them on the individual path they need.
“Come, children, listen to me; I will teach you the fear of Hashem”. (Psalms 34:12)
To learn to fear Hashem takes much discipline and learning from those wiser. If only we would instill this in our children at a young age, it would remain with them as they mature. A child learns fear of Hashem by the example given from watching their parents and teachers.
“If I raised my hands against the fatherless… may my arm drop off my shoulder.” (Job 31:21, 22)
We must be very gentle with those who lost a parent. Their souls are very fragile and we must fill their lack by making them feel a part of our own families.
“Perhaps my children have sinned and blasphemed Hashem in their thoughts.” (Job 1:5)
A parent has difficulty accepting the imperfections of their children. Maybe this is because it is also their own imperfection.
“And make them known to your children and your children’s children.” (Devarim 4:9)
We have to understand the power of our raising children in the ways of Hashem. When we teach them the right way, then they teach their children and others they befriend. Then, they in turn teach it to their children & associates and then spread the teachings even further. Therefore, there is no end to the blessing that descends into the world from your bringing up children in the ways of Hashem.
“She looks well to the ways of her household” (Proverbs 31:27)
It’s important for a mother to not only care for the household but to look and truly see that the path they are taking will lead them to up righteousness. Her ways should be ways of tactful